While Facebook is one of the most popular and widely used social media sites, it has also been the subject of studies that found that Facebook use may be linked to an increase in divorce rates, according to the International Business Times.
If you and your spouse have Facebook profiles, how much time you spend on the site, what you post and your interactions with others may have a direct – and negative – impact on the health of your marriage.
To help preserve and maintain your relationship, take a few moments to educate yourself on five of the ways your Facebook page could damage your marriage.
- Sharing Too Many Details about Your Relationship.Details about your personal relationship with your spouse do not belong on Facebook or other social media sites. Whether you have had an argument with your spouse or the two of you are having difficulties, sharing too much information can create a serious problem and destroy the trust your spouse has placed in you. Even if your relationship is good, it is not recommended that you share too many details. What goes on between you and your spouse should remain between you and your spouse.
- Posting or Being Tagged in Photos with Your Exes.Posting photos of you and your exes can make your spouse feel jealous, unappreciated and, in some cases, suspicious. Why are you posting photos of your ex? Are you attempting to rekindle an earlier relationship? Have you been cheating? Are you unhappy with your marriage and longing for what you had in the past? All of these are questions that may arise when you post or are tagged in photos with an ex.
- Having Your Ex-Girlfriend or Ex-Boyfriend Reappear.While it can be nice to connect with family, friends, old co-workers and loved ones on Facebook, having your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend suddenly reappear in your online life can cause past emotions to surface. It does not matter how innocent your intentions are when you “friend” your ex, your spouse may not appreciate any interaction with an earlier relationship partner. Your marital relationship will do better if you focus on what you have now.
- Sharing Photos of You Having a Good Time with Others, Not Your Spouse.When you share photos on Facebook of you spending time, laughing and partying with others (not your spouse), it can be hurtful and is likely to create a problem between the two of you. How would you feel if you saw your spouse having a good time with others, while at the same time you are stuck at home doing chores or pulling kid duty? Your spouse’s feelings should be taken into consideration before posting any photo on Facebook or other social media sites.
- Allowing It to Take up More of Your Attention and Time Than You Give to Your Spouse.In a survey conducted by a University of Missouri School of Journalism doctoral student and other researchers, Facebook users between the ages of 18 and 82 were asked to describe how much they used the social network, as well how often arguments or conflict occurred between current or former marital partners due to their social media habits. The study found that individuals who allow Facebook to take up more of their attention and time than they give their spouse generally experience higher levels of conflict. Breakups, cheating, marital disputes, separation, divorce and other negative relationship situations are all consequences that can result from spending too much time online.
- International Business Times: New Study Claims Facebook Is Linked to Increase In Divorce Rates
- University of Missouri: Excessive Facebook Use Can Damage Relationships, MU Study Finds