[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/www.charlesullman.com\/wedding-season-means-tactful-planning-family-members#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/www.charlesullman.com\/wedding-season-means-tactful-planning-family-members","headline":"Wedding Season Often Means Tactful Planning Regarding Family Members","name":"Wedding Season Often Means Tactful Planning Regarding Family Members","description":"Spring is here, and wedding season is in full swing. Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting times in a couple\u2019s life. But it can also be stressful for\u00a0children of divorce\u00a0who feel torn about how to make decisions involving parents and stepparents \u2013 and others who are involved...","datePublished":"2013-05-13","dateModified":"2024-05-13","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.charlesullman.com\/author\/charlesullman#Person","name":"Charles R. 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But it can also be stressful for\u00a0children of divorce\u00a0who feel torn about how to make decisions involving parents and stepparents \u2013 and others who are involved as a result of divorce \u2013 at \u00a0their nuptials.Consider some of the most basic decisions that must be made when planning a wedding:Who sits where?Who walks the bride down the aisle? Tradition would leave this step to the biological father, but sometimes the stepfather has been more of a \u201cparent\u201d in the child\u2019s mind. It won\u2019t be easy for her to decide.Who\u2019s going to stand where in the photographs?What if the parents\u2019 divorce was recent \u2013 and nasty? Will it reopen wounds that are only beginning to close?It\u2019s\u00a0naive\u00a0to think that all parents will be selfless and do the \u201cright thing,\u201d which is to support their child\u2019s decisions no matter what they may be. Many children are fearful about even broaching the topic with their parents because the topic is so sensitive.The Emotional Toll of Divorce on Wedding DecisionsThe New York Times recently published an\u00a0article\u00a0discussing the etiquette decisions that children of divorce have to make as they plan their own weddings. The story presents anecdotes from children of divorce whose parents have broken up and describes their feelings about having to mediate between them \u2013 something that no child (regardless of age) should ever have to do. It\u2019s worth a read.It\u2019s also important to consider that research shows that adult children of divorce are more likely to divorce than other populations. Experts also suggest that some children of divorce experience a kind of identity crisis as a result of divorce that shatters their childhood expectations of family. These feelings can carry \u00a0over into adulthood and color their attitudes about marriage and love.Guiding Principles for Families in TransitionIn North Carolina, decisions about children in a divorce are always made on what is in the best interest of the child. Obviously, that\u00a0doesn\u2019t\u00a0apply to children once they are no longer minors, but remember that it\u2019s always important to consider how your divorce can impact your children in the long term. Few parents want to ruin their children\u2019s happiness, but they may not realize how something as simple as a seating chart can cause undue stress and pain.The bottom line: Talk to your children about your attitude regarding the particulars of the wedding. It may help them make decisions that are considerate to all.The attorneys at\u00a0Charles R. Ullman & Associates\u00a0handle issues involving separation, divorce and child custody.\u00a0 Talk to a qualified family law attorney in Raleigh by calling\u00a0888-975-0465\u00a0or filling out our online\u00a0contact form."},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Wedding Season Often Means Tactful Planning Regarding Family Members","item":"https:\/\/www.charlesullman.com\/wedding-season-means-tactful-planning-family-members#breadcrumbitem"}]}]