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But today, couples don\u2019t necessarily need a personal Sherlock Holmes to discover their spouse\u2019s indiscretions. Vast amounts of incriminating data may be found electronically, especially on the most common devices that people use today \u2013 telephones and cell phones.The temptation to find proof is even greater for suspicious spouses, because it is so easy to find recording devices today. A quick trip to Radio Shack can hook you up with a cheap device to record phone calls, and you need only go online for tips on how to discreetly eavesdrop on conversations.Legal Boundaries of Wiretapping in RelationshipsBut is it legal to wiretap your spouse\u2019s phone calls? Under\u00a0North Carolina law, it\u2019s OK to record phone calls as long as one of the parties to the conversation knows that they are being recorded. That means you can record your own phone calls even if the other person is unaware. However, if you\u2019re secretly trying to record a conversation between your spouse and his or her lover, that would be against the law unless one of them knew you were doing so \u2013 an unlikely scenario indeed.You should know that wiretapping, while it may be legal in certain situations, also carries risks and could subject you to criminal and civil charges. For example, in 2009 a Nebraska man sued his ex-wife in federal court for privacy violations after she or a third party allegedly bugged their child\u2019s teddy bear to record him during their ongoing\u00a0custody\u00a0dispute,\u00a0ABC News reported. A judge later ordered the woman and her father to pay a total of $120,000 to six people who had their conversations illegally recorded.Using Recorded Evidence in Divorce ProceedingsRecorded proof of adultery may be useful in divorce proceedings, particularly as it pertains to matters such as\u00a0alimony,\u00a0equitable distribution\u00a0and child custody. Evidence of wrongdoing may also give the jilted spouse an upper hand while negotiating a settlement. In the case of\u00a0domestic violence, a recording of an abusive spouse threatening the other may help explain the extent of the problem to the court.One exception to the one-party consent rule involves recordings between your spouse and your children. If you can show that you taped conversations between them out of concern for your children\u2019s welfare, they may be admissible in court during family law proceedings.If you have already recorded your spouse\u2019s calls or obtained electronic information from his or her smartphone or e-mail, it is important to inform your divorce attorney immediately. Furthermore, you should follow your lawyer\u2019s advice about what to do with that information. If your attorney advises you not to do it, stop now."},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Wiretapping Your Cheating Spouse Carries Risks","item":"https:\/\/www.charlesullman.com\/wiretapping-cheating-spouse-carries-risks#breadcrumbitem"}]}]