Domestic Violence Against Men Lawyer

Legs of person yelling at man in domestic violence dispute while man sits on floor crying.

While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, men also are frequently victims of domestic violence and abuse. Thousands of men experience domestic violence from a spouse or partner each year. Domestic violence—also known as intimate partner violence— affects men regardless of age, sexual orientation, race or religion. Men may feel ashamed and embarrassed to admit that they have been abused by a loved one.

An abusive partner may apologize at first for threats or isolated incidents of violence or threatening behavior. Unfortunately, violent or abusive partners, whether male or female, tend to be more emboldened over time. They may make less effort to hide their abusive behavior. It’s important to recognize the signs of domestic violence against men. All victims of domestic violence have a legal right to seek protection from harm and to have trusted legal guidance.

The Raleigh domestic violence attorneys of Charles R. Ullman & Associates help male domestic violence victims take the necessary steps to get out of an abusive situation and get to a safer place. Our compassionate male victims domestic violence lawyers can help you understand your legal rights to seek a protective order and leave an unhealthy relationship. Attorney Charles Ullman is a North Carolina board-certified specialist in family law and he is committed to helping clients break the cycle of abuse and violence. He and his legal team have helped numerous Wake County residents who felt trapped in abusive relationships. Our goal is to help you regain control of your life and move forward toward a brighter future. It is important to recognize the signs that a relationship may involve abuse.

Recognize Signs of Domestic Violence Against Men

An intimate partner may seem attentive and protective at first. But over time, the partner’s conduct may change and become controlling, intimidating or frightening.

 Signs that you may be a victim of intimate partner abuse or violence include:

  • Name-calling
  • Shaming, insulting remarks
  • Controlling behavior regarding your clothing, spending or where you go
  • Monitoring your actions
  • Harassing phone calls
  • Pressuring you to drink alcohol or use drugs
  • Attempts to keep you from seeing family or friends or isolate you from your loved ones
  • Coercion to engage in sexual acts against your will
  • Accusing you of cheating
  • Blaming you for prompting the abuse or violence
  • Taunting and threats of physical violence
  • Threats to harm your children or loved ones
  • Threats to move out and take your children away
  • Stalking

Types of Harm Involving Male Domestic Abuse Victims

The law in North Carolina defines domestic violence as occurring between two people who share some type of personal relationship.

The relationship may include:

  • Current spouses or former spouses
  • People of the opposite sex who are dating
  • People of the opposite sex who live together or formerly cohabited
  • Parents and children
  • People who have a child in common

A male may suffer intimidation, abuse, sexual assault or other intentional harmful behavior from an intimate partner leading to male domestic abuse. The violence may start as isolated incidents and develop into a pattern of behavior. The abuser may try to blame the victim or say that something about your conduct prompted the violence. Physical violence is frequently accompanied by psychologically abusive or emotionally abusive behavior that is a part of one partner’s systematic attempt to gain power and domination over the other.

Domestic violence takes many forms including:

  • Physical Violence — Any intentional physical contact including grabbing, hitting, kicking, slapping, choking or throwing objects at you or your children or loved one.
  • Sexual Violence — Any type of unwanted sexual contact or sexual conduct, including non-consensual fondling or intercourse, degrading sexual activity, coerced use or disuse of birth control, forced abortion or accusations of infidelity.
  • Emotional Abuse — Shaming, denigrating comments intended to destroy a person’s self-worth or embarrass you in front of your family and friends.
  • Psychological Abuse — Any comments or actions intended to intimidate, instill fear, and cause anxiety.
  • Digital Abuse — The posting of photos to harass or hold a partner or ex-partner up to ridicule may be digital abuse.

Learn more about types of domestic abuse here.

How a Male Domestic Violence Victim Lawyer Can Help

Many victims of domestic violence feel trapped and afraid of their abusive partner. Leaving an abusive relationship can be frightening for the victim of domestic violence. The abusive partner may threaten to retaliate to try to maintain control. Some male victims of domestic violence feel ashamed or embarrassed to admit to others what they have been enduring.

Our compassionate domestic violence victim attorneys are here for you. We understand that you are enduring one of the toughest periods of your life.

The police may arrest an abusive spouse or partner on criminal charges such as simple assault, sexual battery, assault in the presence of a minor, or domestic criminal trespass. In criminal cases involving domestic violence, the Wake County prosecutor will not drop a case even if the victim wishes to drop the charge. A criminal prosecution certainly may be in order, but there may be other appropriate civil steps you can take.

Our experienced domestic violence attorneys at Charles Ullman & Associates can listen to your concerns and offer trusted legal guidance, based on years of experience helping domestic violence victims. Having a knowledgeable lawyer to turn to for advice can give you a distinct advantage when dealing with an abuser and enhance your chances of moving forward with your life on your own terms. If needed, we can take action in a Wake County civil court to protect you and your family.

Ending a relationship is never easy, regardless of your gender. But your partner’s abusive conduct may have been the final straw. You may want to leave the abuser. We can help you get the resources you need to break free of an abusive spouse or partner and get a temporary protective order if needed. If you are in immediate danger, these temporary orders, which last up to 10 days, can be issued by the court on an emergency basis without the abusive partner being present in court.

We also can help you get a permanent restraining order known as a Domestic Violence Protective Order or 50B order if the abuser committed an act of violence, non-consensual sexual conduct or stalking. A domestic violence protective order can require the abuser to move out of the house you share and prevent the abuser from engaging in certain types of behavior such as threatening you or coming with a certain distance.

To get either a temporary protective order or a 50B order, you will need demonstrate to the court your need for protection. Our attorneys can review the details of your situation and identify the types of evidence needed to satisfy the court that a protective order is needed.

Statistics on Male Domestic Violence

The statistics about male domestic violence are alarming.

One in four men have experienced some type of physical violence by an intimate partner such as slapping, shoving or pushing

43 percent of men report being stalked by a current or former intimate partner

One in seven men have been victims of more severe physical violence including beating, burning or strangling by an intimate partner

One in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner

Almost a third of male rape victims were raped by an intimate partner

Source: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Resources for Male Domestic Abuse Victims

If you are in an abusive relationship, it’s important to talk to someone. There are several hotlines with a trained professional who serve victims of domestic violence,  domestic abuse, and sexual abuse.

INTERACT of Wake County

INTERACT Crisis Line available 24-hours a day

Crisis Intervention Hotline

Contact Our Raleigh Domestic Abuse Law Firm Today

If you are a male domestic violence victim – or you know someone suffering domestic violence or abuse in the Raleigh area –  you should know that the law is on the victim’s side. Regardless of the situation, you do not have to endure the situation if you are being abused. The compassionate attorneys at Charles R. Ullman & Associates are available to help you. From our offices in Raleigh, we assist male domestic violence victims throughout Wake County by providing legal representation and putting them in touch with other caring professionals.

Contact an experienced male domestic violence lawyer at Charles R. Ullman & Associates for a consultation today. Please contact us online or call us toll-free for a prompt response.


Charles is a knowledgeable and professional family attorney who has a paradigm of principal. I highly recommend his firm. I found his staff to be pleasant and easy to work with.

Review by: Dan Epstein
Reviewing: Family Legal Services
Date published:10/12/2018
Rating: ★★★★★5 / 5 stars


Charles Ullman & Associates provides you respected, experienced and knowledgeable divorce and family law attorneys. You can trust us to help you through the legal process efficiently and effectively so you can transition to the next phase of your life. Our community involvement reaches beyond charitable support of important causes. We launched our own movement in Fraternities4Family and provide scholarships to able students in need.